If you are living abroad as a couple, you may experience sudden problems in your relationship which you did not have at home. In this case, couples therapy can strengthen and improve your relationship. Here are 4 tips for expats seeking couples therapy in Hamburg, Germany:
1: German health insurers do not cover couples therapy
If you are seeking therapy in general, your German health insurance will pay for the costs. The only exception is couples therapy, which has to be paid by the couples themselves. The average cost for couples therapy in Germany can range from 80 € - 200 € per hour.
2: Make sure you like your therapist
Couples therapy will enable you to communicate with your partner in an open, attentive and healing way and it will improve the communication between you. But to reach this, you will have to feel comfortable with your therapist. The healing process depends a lot on the chemistry, so I would strongly recommend you choose your therapist by trusting your gut.
3: You should feel good after the sessions
In my opinion, therapy should immediately make you feel better, not worse. And couples therapy should make couples feel better together. Some therapists claim that it can take months before you feel significantly better or see significant results. I believe couples therapy should show immediate results. Although it's ok to feel occasionally bad after sessions, I would not recommend continuing therapy that isn't having a positive impact.
4: If your partner does not want to start couples therapy:
Then do it alone. Couples therapy does not require that you have your partner at your side. You can solve a lot of issues on your own and improve the relationship by changing your perspective towards it. Many couples don't start couples therapy because they cannot commit themselves to starting it together. Don't let this stop you from working on your relationship. You will benefit greatly from doing couples therapy alone.
I'm Natalie Marby, an English speaking therapist in Hamburg, Germany. I offer couples therapy in English,
especially for expats living in Hamburg. You can book a free 60 minute initial session by sending me an email or calling
me: +49 40 46090233. (Please don't forget to leave me your phone number and the times I can reach you). I look forward to hearing from you!
Read more about my therapy method: Healing the inner child.