If you have moved to Germany recently and cannot bring yourself to feel at home, then you will probably feel very much out of place and lonely. Expat depression is quite common, so maybe you should start looking for help. This is how psychotherapy can change your life abroad for the better:
Adjusting to Germany can be hard
If you're from the UK or the US, adjusting to Germany is bound to give you a culture shock. Germans can be eager to point out when you break the rules, they love to say "no" and seem to be quite cold and unfriendly. The overall German "rudeness" quickly makes you feel that something is wrong with you. It takes some time to understand the Germans, and if you are struggling with depression, this can be a real challenge and will even increase your problems. Talking about it - especially in English - can help, because it will make you feel less overwhelmed.
Get an objective opinion on your feelings and fears
If you already had built-up issues before you came to Germany, these will probably now increase and make it very difficult for you to stay mentally balanced. In this case, psychotherapy can enable you to reduce mental stress and aid you with the emotional toll of living abroad. Psychotherapy helps you to break free from limitations imposed on you by your past, uncover your goals and help you to reveal who you really are.
Making friends will make you happier
It's as simple as that: Once you make friends in Germany, you will feel happier, healthier and you will also be more successful. But to make friends, you have to start loving yourself, because negative feelings towards yourself make new relationships nearly impossible. If it's always been hard for you to make friends, it will be even harder abroad. Language problems, fear of saying something awkward or fear of embarrassing yourself can keep you from really connecting, but self love is the true key to overcome these fears and to make new friends. Psychotherapy can help you to develop an unconditional sense of love, support and caring for yourself, as well as exploring the reasons behind self-neglect.
I'm Natalie Marby, an English speaking therapist in Hamburg, Germany. I offer psychotherapy in English, especially for expats living in Hamburg. You can book a free 60 minute initial session by sending me an email or calling me: (040) 46090233. (Please don't forget to send me your phone number and the times I can reach you). I look forward to hearing from you!
Read more about my therapy method: Healing the inner child.